Lana Del Rey has been famously mysterious about her recent marriage to Jeremy Dufrene, a captain for an alligator swamp tour boat company in Louisiana and a father of three. They married in September of this year, and the internet went crazy. Few knew that Lana and Dufrene were seeing each other. Many found it surprising that the elegant, classic, talented singer would marry the normal Southern gent. The pair tied the knot in the bayou where Dufrene operates his boat business.

Del Rey cleared up any confusion the world might’ve had about her marriage when presenting her longtime friend Jack Antonoff with the Producer of the Decade award at Variety‘s Hitmakers event this weekend:

I’m grateful for [Antonoff] for the example he gave me in his marriage to [Margaret Qualley]. I saw the way he looked at her when he met her, and he’s a big reason why I waited so long to get married, and why I met my amazing husband.

I feel like there’s a singers’ curse around meeting an honest partner who has no skin in the game, no dog in the race. . . . It’s super nerve-wracking to hold on to an innocent perception of how things could go when you’re in an industry where maybe your values and your morals don’t quite match up with what’s going on. Especially when people think you probably don’t have any morals or values.

So Jack, thank you so much for maybe helping other people look at me in a way that is a little bit closer to how I perceived myself . . . Other than my managers, you really have turned my life around . . . you’ve just really made it feel like Hollywood can be glamorous still and you can still have a very rich home life, even when you get rich.

Valuing morality in a partner has led some online to question (in slight horror) if Del Rey is a Republican. While it’d be great to claim the icon as a GOP superstar, Del Rey’s remarks about her rich home life needn’t be associated with any particular ideology.

She’s a successful woman whose priorities are radically at odds with those typically espoused by the music industry and Hollywood. Republican or not, she’s a model for women who feel bogged down by a culture that encourages them to chase money, fame, and power over true happiness.