"It's as if I'd missed the erotic revival train," said Alexandra. For a long time "super comfortable" with habits that this communications manager described, half-jokingly half-seriously, as "traditionally" oriented towards vaginal penetration, she confided that she gradually felt "left behind," as those around her lauded "toys" dedicated to female masturbation – sales of which have soared since the Covid-19-related lockdowns.
Over and over again, these glowing comments about accessories for which this 30-something had never had "any curiosity or inclination" led to a burning question in her mind: "After justifying myself for the 20th time, explaining that, no, sex toys with clitoral suction were not 'my thing,' I felt stuck in the unglamorous stance of a traditional lover – perhaps for lack of an adventurous spirit." It's an anguished reflection, testifying to the "malaise of those who feel obliged to practice a sexuality perceived as modern in order to 'be in,'" said doctor of psychology Pascal de Sutter. In his view, this pressure represents the "other side of the coin" of a contemporary "sexual revolution" characterized by the lifting of taboos and the enrichment of practices.
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