The first time I promised myself I would wait until marriage to have sex was two years ago, when I broke up with my last boyfriend. I had come close several times, but after breaking up with him, I said to myself, "Thank God I didn't go through with it." Even if I'd wanted to, I would have regretted it, because the evidence is there: We are not going to spend our lives together. My first time will be with the man who will become my husband, that's the goal I've set myself.

I'm not ashamed of being a virgin at 23. I could shout it from the rooftops if I had to. In fact, I posted it on TikTok, where I humorously discuss the difficulties of being a young girl of my generation who still fantasizes about our grandparents' love stories. I often receive messages of support from women. By contrast, a lot of men call me a liar. They imagine that my decision to go public with my abstinence is just a trap to attract them further. As if I would be thinking with them in mind, when in fact I'm not. It's a choice I'm making for myself, and for myself alone.

Sexuality has never been a big part of my life. Around the age of 18, when my friends started having their first experiences, I even wondered if I wasn't asexual. I've never experimented with my sexuality on my own, I don't feel like it. And with boys, I often forget that the love relationship also includes this sexual aspect.

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