Recently, a TikTok user known as @ms_petch got a lot of attention. She’s a self-described “liberal woman” and she’s been having trouble finding a masculine man who isn’t conservative.
Her video about her dating troubles got hundreds of thousands of views in just a week. In it, she shared it’s been tough to find a masculine man who agrees with her progressive views.
She opened her video by saying it’s been “one of the saddest realizations” she’s ever had.
“As a liberal woman,” she expressed, “finding a man who’s ready to play the traditional masculine part in a relationship, who isn’t conservative, is quite a challenge today.”
She’s searching for a gentleman, someone ready to foot the bill on the first date, hold doors open, and look out for her. Yet, her quest hasn’t unearthed a man who isn’t steeped in conservatism.
Amid her discourse, she bared some frustrations regarding her encounters with men. She lamented that many gents around are eager to split the bill on their first date, which is shocking for her.
Despite her wish for a more traditional man, @ms_petch still wants to keep her independence. She doesn’t want to be stuck in the role of a housewife or a mother. She wants a man who can provide for her, but she doesn’t want him to be conservative.
“Most men I’ve dated,” she confessed, “the ones who naturally exude that provider, masculine energy, they’re usually conservative.”
Then she posed a question, her voice tinged with uncertainty, “Am I demanding too much?!?! To stand as an equal, yet have a man cater to me, at least to some degree?”
She concluded her video on a note of perplexity. “I’m at a loss,” she admitted, “I don’t want to compromise my beliefs and values just to secure a man, but am I trying to get the best of both worlds here?”
People who watched her video had a lot to say. One person commented, “All of the benefits, none of the responsibilities.”
Another person teased her, saying, “Why can’t I find a man with conservative values who’s not a conservative! Like what?”
Yet another person commented, “’I want a traditional man without being a traditional woman’ lol.”