It’s just rude.

There’s a basic courtesy most of us learned before kindergarten: you don’t talk about someone in the third person when they’re standing right in front of you. If you’re with your wife, you don’t turn to a friend and say, “She doesn’t like Mexican food.” You look her in the eye and say, “My wife doesn’t like Mexican food.” (Although, I would never say either, my wife LOVES Mexican food. Or is it Latinx food...?)

It’s not complicated. It’s just rude to speak around someone as if they’re not there.

That’s why the pronoun crusade isn’t as innocent as activists want you to think. The entire debate gets framed as “be nice, use their pronouns.” But here’s the trick: pronouns are used when the person isn’t present. So why do they care how I refer to someone when they’re not even in the room? Because the real goal isn’t about manners. The real goal is thought control.

We’re told this is just a matter of kindness, like calling someone “Jim” instead of “James.” That’s nonsense. Names are agreed-upon labels; pronouns are structural pieces of language. Forcing everyone to rewrite grammar to validate an ideology isn’t courtesy, it’s ideological compulsion.

Jordan Peterson put it bluntly when he refused to bow to compelled pronouns: 

“The law is making me say things I don’t believe.”

That’s the line. It’s not about refraining from saying something cruel. It’s about being forced to affirm something you know isn’t true.

Think about it: if I’m talking privately with you, and I say “he” instead of “they,” what’s the real issue? The person I’m referencing isn’t there. You aren’t offended. Yet activists insist on policing that language anyway. Why? Because, as Orwell warned,

“If thought corrupts language, language can also corrupt thought.”

This is about changing the way people think by brute-forcing a change in how they speak. Once you’ve got people afraid to say the “wrong” word, you’ve already trained them to stop thinking the “wrong” thought. No, you won’t be arrested for using the “wrong” pronoun in the breakroom. But you might lose your job. You might get smeared as hateful. You might get ostracized by friends or family. The punishment is real, it’s just delivered through social shame instead of handcuffs. And that’s actually more effective.

This is why the pronoun obsession feels less like politeness and more like an ideological loyalty test. Either you play along, or you’re marked as a problem. That’s not respect. That’s manipulation.

Let’s make something clear: refusing to play this pronoun game isn’t about being cruel. I’ll use your name. I’ll treat you like a human being worthy of respect. But don’t demand that I deny basic biology, twist grammar, and reprogram the English language to prop up a lie.

Because when you tell me I have to call someone “they,” you’re not correcting my manners. You’re trying to correct my mind. And that’s not courtesy, it’s tyranny wrapped in polite packaging.

Call me far-right, call me radical, call me a transphobe. Just whatever you do…

Don’t call me "they."

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