A woman has taken to a parenting forum to explain how her mother-in-law ruined her gender reveal. 

Not only did she spoil the special day, but she also tried to cover her tracks and lie about it.

But the savvy mom-to-be was having none of it and pulled up an incriminating text exchange to expose her MIL.

She’s now asking the internet whether or not she’s in the wrong and let’s just say… people have thoughts. 

Taking to the Am I The A**hole thread, the poster explained that her mother-in-law had been pressuring her to reveal the gender of her baby but she didn’t even know yet herself.

“She was convinced that I knew the gender and insisted I tell her. I told her I didn’t know,” she began.

“She wore me down after a month of bothering me about it. She begged me and promised that she wouldn’t tell anyone. This was all in texts. I told her it was a girl.”

Her justification for doing this was, “I figured it was a 50/50 chance and it would get her off my back.”

Despite swearing her mother-in-law to secrecy, it soon became apparent that she didn’t stick to her word. 

The OP explained, “When we cut the cake to reveal a blue inside there was a really awkward silence. She had told literally all of the guests from her side of the family so they could bring appropriate gifts.”

So how did her MIL take the news? Not well, of course.

“She came over and hissed at me that I made her look stupid. I reminded her that she had PROMISED not to tell anyone.”

To make matters worse, her MIL denied ever making the promise. 

But luckily the woman had the proof in their text exchange, so whipped out her phone to remind her. 

“Some of her family were right there when I did that so they heard her admit that she lied and had never intended to keep that promise,” she said.

The MIL then accused the expectant mom of trying to “embarrass” her.

“I again reminded her that I had told her on multiple occasions that I did not know the gender.”

Now, her husband wants her to apologize to his mom to “keep the peace.”

However, most commenters urged her not to apologize and stand her ground. 

“I’m sick of people being told they should apologize when they did nothing wrong in order to keep the peace. Being forced to appease bullies/people who break boundaries is harmful,” one of the top comments read. 

A second person wrote: “I hate that the husband wants the original poster to apologize. She’s literally the wronged person here who was harassed and lied to. Husband needs to tell his mother to do the apologizing.”

And a third said, “She embarrassed herself. ‘I’m sorry you embarrassed yourself by lying’ is about the only apology I’d be willing to give.”

And someone else echoed this and suggested the poster give a ‘fauxpology’. “Say you’re sorry you felt you had no other choice to get her off your case or tell her you’re sorry she feels embarrassed that she broke her promise.”

“Not in the wrong, but you and your husband need to get on the same page about her behavior ASAP,” someone else concluded.