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24 Feb 2024


A husband's social media post has gone viral for summarizing — in 2024 — an age-old couples' challenge: Is the guy pulling his weight around the house?

The post on Reddit has grabbed over 2,300 reactions and 1,400 comments in less than 24 hours.

A husband, 36, said he and his wife, 38, have been married for eight years. They have two kids, ages 7 and 5.

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"She is a stay-at-home mom," he wrote, "in charge of all the housework and childrearing while I work and cover us financially."

He added a caveat right away: "Before you start attacking me, hear me out."

exhausted mom

"She is a stay-at-home mom, in charge of all the housework and childrearing while I work and cover us financially," wrote a man recently on social media about his wife (not pictured). He asked others for advice and help with a serious relationship issue. (iStock)

He said the couple "ran into a bit of bad luck with debt a few years ago," and as a result, he said he works about 50-60 hours a week "to help us get out of it."

The man, who didn't share his location but called himself "ThrowRA_boiyy," said he's a carpenter — "so the days are long, and sometimes I drive quite a bit to get to the work sites. By the time I get home, I am exhausted and pretty much eat, then collapse into bed."

"I never thought I was one of those guys."

He described the family's weekend routines, noting he takes his son and daughter to soccer games, then is "back home for lunch, while my wife goes to [her] book club [meetings, has] lunch with her friends, then usually [does] some sort of hike or yoga class. She is back by midafternoon, at which point she takes back over the kids."

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The husband said that on Saturday nights, he makes dinner, "maybe [does] a bit of laundry and cleans the floors."

Then on Sunday, "it is reversed. I go out with my mates. By mid-afternoon, I return, we have our babysitter come around and we spend the night together."

man and woman fighting

A man's wife recently told him he needs to "start doing more around the house. That I need to do more cleaning, organizing, looking after the kids, grocery shopping, cooking," the husband told others as he sought advice. (iStock)

He said he's read a lot on social media "about men not doing enough at home — but I never thought I was one of those guys."

Yet recently, he wrote, his wife came to him "saying that I need to start doing more around the house. That I need to do more cleaning, organizing, looking after the kids, grocery shopping, cooking."

 "I don’t know physically how to find more time to contribute on weekdays."

He added, "I know that she does a lot, and I am in no way saying she doesn’t deserve a break, but I am working really hard, too. Especially at the moment. I feel like I do the best I can with how much work I’m doing."

He told others, "I explained this to her and she said I was being ridiculous. That I spend all day having fun at work with my workmates, while she deals with the children and all of the house chores. Then I get home and just eat and go to bed. This isn’t the plan forever — but I thought it was going all right for now."

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He invited others to weigh in on the situation. Fox News Digital attempted to reach the original poster for further comments. 

In an edit to his post, the man added afterward, "I take care of all the bills, car payments, insurance dates." He also added of his wife, "When she expressed her need for help, it was nothing specific and when we had this discussion she did not give me any specific examples. And even if she did, I leave at 5 a.m. and I’m not usually back 'til 7:30 p.m."

He said, "I get home and shower, eat and put laundry into the machine, unpack my work gear, I play/read/clean up our kids, and I’m in bed by 8:30 p.m. I don’t know physically how to find more time to contribute on weekdays."

man snoring while sleeping

Saying he's in bed during the week by 8:30 p.m., a man on Reddit (not pictured) described his packed workdays as a carpenter.   (iStock)

Many commenters on the social media thread had questions for the husband — with one asking if he left items around the house and expected his wife to clean up after him as well as after the kids. 

Another person wrote that the wife "lost any support I would have given her as soon as she said he gets to go to work and ‘have fun all day’ with his mates."

A different commenter said, "I am guessing she is maybe lonely during the week and in need of other grown-ups to talk to."

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Overall, most commenters on the thread felt he was not in the wrong for how he's handling things, given the demands of his line of work. Wrote one person who was the main financial provider in the home, "This [debate over household chores] was actually a reason I ended up divorced."

The Associated Press noted a few years ago in relation to a new report, "Experts say one reason women report doing more house and child care work is not only because they actually do more — which is often true — but also because men are not always aware of all the work involved. That includes planning family activities and organizing appointments and even things like providing children with emotional support." 

"Women are also much more likely than their husbands to care for children on a daily basis, shop for groceries and wash dishes."

Gallup also reported in 2020 that "although women comprise nearly half of the U.S. workforce, they still fulfill a larger share of household responsibilities."

The organization added, "Married or partnered heterosexual couples in the U.S. continue to divide household chores along largely traditional lines, with the woman in the relationship shouldering primary responsibility for doing the laundry (58%), cleaning the house (51%) and preparing meals (51%). At the same time, men continue to take the lead in keeping the car in good condition (69%) and doing yardwork (59%)."

Gallup also said, "In addition to laundry, cleaning and cooking, women are the primary decision-makers when it comes to home decor in 62% of households. Although there is more equity in some of the other tasks, women are also much more likely than their husbands to care for children on a daily basis, shop for groceries and wash dishes."

However, as Rebecca Brown Wright, a blogger and mother of three based in Utah, wrote recently, "Housekeeping is an adult responsibility. It is NOT synonymous with motherhood."

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Maureen Mackey is managing editor of lifestyle for Fox News Digital.